- How do u know he's the one?
- Don't u think it's too early to get married?
Seems like everything happens in the blink of an eye. We met in my previous company (he is still working in the same company). We were both shy initially (so-not-Julie, oh well... I have crush on him). Here are some of what I love and know about him.
* He is my good listener when I need him - listens to me, source of guidance and support (I would say, women are easily emotional when problems arise, unlike men - calm and cool :p r).
* He makes me feel good about being myself. Never complains anything about myself (Although I keep saying I'm FAT. Haha), while always encouraging each other to be better. He pampers me through his words and actions.
* Trust. I know he is doing his best and he wants the best for his partner too. A common saying "The secret to growing in trust is not to expect your man to be perfect." I know he is the perfect man for me.
* He completes my life. A good partner who encourages and supports me professionally, personally and spiritually. My inspiration and did I ever mention he is quite cute. LOL
* He sacrifices his time, energy and money to the woman he wants. That is me. :)
* He is intelligent and smart enough to fall in love with me. Haha, I know u'll definitely like the last point. :)
An article that catches my eye - "Why Compromise a Necessity in a Happy Marriage".
In my opinion, compromise doesn't mean we need to change ourselves to suit each other. Being two different personalities - myself as an extrovert and he's introvert (such a shy boy), it is important in our relationship. We respect each other - we do things we love separately besides spending time together in sports. I'm pretty sure, nobody wants to be controlled. And soon, we are living together as a family. I used to have negative thoughts. Thinking unnecessarily, make myself worry and unhappy. I learn about sharing problems and ideas with partner. Open communication helps to make the relationship stronger. He is always the one compromise.
Some thoughts about being married or benefits to married couple :
(Taken from "Importance of Marriage to Society")
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Living Together: In a marriage, two individuals who tie the knot come together to set up a home of their own. They live under the same roof and sleep on the same bed. This ensures that the two partners feel lonely no more and get each other’s close company round the clock. They can speak to each other anytime they want and generally benefit from each other’s physical presence. (Looking forward to our new room and enthusiastic about living under one roof) Functional Division of Labour: There are many advantages of living together. With marriage, there is a functional division of labour in all of the life’s activities. The wife usually takes care of household work such as laundry and cooking food while the husband goes out to work everyday to bring home the bacon. This makes things easier for both and they develop a specialisation in their area of work, concentrating fully on their individual responsibilities. The home and family functions are much smoother this way. (We might have opposite role as he will be doing cooking instead. :p)
Financial Security: When two people get married, their lives intertwine in more ways than one. Both of them bring to the table all the savings and assets they have accumulated over the years gone past. This combined wealth increases the purchasing power of them both and they can afford to collect many luxuries for the home to make their life comfortable. If both the spouses have a job, then their salaries jointly add up to a tidy sum and they can now afford many assets, both movable and immovable, that they couldn’t earlier.
Emotional Support: Perhaps the biggest benefit marriage offers to the partners is emotional support. The two of them stay together and lead a very close-knit life. They share their personal secrets with each other and do not hide anything. They discuss all of life’s big and small events and go to social functions together as one unit. When a partner is depressed or life takes a sudden turn for the worse, he or she is provided support by way of soothing words and encouragement by the spouse. Marriage is clearly a win-win situation for both. According to one survey, due to the emotional support they get, married people tend to live substantially longer and fall ill less often compared to individuals who never marry in their lives. (Yes. I agree 100% in emotional support. Based on my experience, married people fall ill less often because married couple are happier and healthier.)
Rearing Children: To have children and begin a family, there really is no better option than getting married. This is because it is easy for the married partners to establish a safe and secure nest in which the children can be reared to grow up into healthy adults. The kids too grow up in the full-time presence of parents and bask in the deep emotional support that they require from adults for their psychologically healthy development. While the father ensures discipline, general guidance and physical security for the children, the mother offers them soft emotions such as tenderness, intimacy and affection. (3 years from now perhaps.)
Social and Legal Recognition: Marriage, unlike live-in relationships, is an institution that has the full backing of the society and law. Duly married man and wife have a certain social status and respect that is denied to people past marriageable age who have never married.
Marriage is also recognised by the law and has legal validity. The rights and duties of the married couple are well defined and enforceable in a court of law. If the partners want to split, there is a particular procedure that has to be followed with respect to not only untying the relationship but also for matters related to division of assets and liabilities, child custody and maintenance to be payable to wife.
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In a marriage relationship it is about the commitment that you have chosen to make to the person that you married. As such, love is a promise. When you got married, you promised to love, you did not promise to feel a certain way. You should remember that this promise was made for better, or for worse. I'm offically Mrs Tee. I love being married and everything has been great. :)
WY, thank you for loving me. *hugz n kisses*
Btw, my hands are too short to show how much I ♥ U :p
